And I am back… back to reality after an AMAZING trip. I came home with an epiphany, and it’s pretty simple… leverage your time. And by leveraging time I mean, reversing my answer on things that are not enhancing my life. I think we all need to come from a place of “yes” but there are things that need to be answered with “NO.” I have always been a yes person and will continue to live that way…but the real issue is that I am a people pleaser.
Can you help with this party? Yes.
Want to eat at Cafe J’s? Yes.
Do you want to drive? Yes.
Can you run this errand for me? Yes.
Will you do me a favor? Yes.
I can’t figure this out, can you do it for me? Yes.
Can you do my job while I enjoy my life and put stress on you? Yes.
I’m done, I’m done, I’M DONE.
When I say yes, I inhibit growth for myself. There is a huge difference in saying yes to help when you can and just saying yes out of guilt or trying to please others. I run around trying to please everyone so that when I lay my head down at night I am unhappy? Why? Because I do what benefits others and not myself. I’m not saying I want to be a selfish person but there is a level of selfishness that is healthy. This is all my fault, I don’t leverage time to benefit myself.
I left my vacation realizing how truly tired I am. The physical is obvious because I have a one-year-old. But I am so emotionally and mentally tired. The last few days I have tried to get my engine running again and it’s been a struggle. I typically can hit the ground running…So I just stopped, I have not worked since I got home. I realized I just needed some rest and time to put a plan together of how I can move forward. And it was as simple as realizing I need to leverage my time for me and my family.
You may be drowning in the same types of issues as me or something completely different, but we need to re-evaluate. I have put together 4 simple steps to LEVERAGE our lives!
1 // PRIORITIES
Put a list in plain sight what your top 3-4 priorities are. Leave it on your desk, tape it to your mirror, hell.. tape it to your head! Put this somewhere you can see it every day. This will remind you how to stay focused and not drift from your priorities.
2 // ACCOUNTABILITY
Find someone, a spouse, friend or relative that can help hold you accountable (this is HUGE!).
3 // HATS
Look at all the hats you are wearing and evaluate if you can get someone else to wear one or even four. For example, could you have someone clean your house so you can work a little extra or spend more time with family on the weekends?
4// TRIM THE FAT
Trim away the things that aren’t profitable or an enhancement to your life. There has to be some sort of fruit from the seed you are sowing. This could be a friend that is draining you emotionally or a business endeavor that has too much input and not enough output.
I will be following these steps from this point forward. These 4 things will drive my decision making. Let’s make decisions that are right for us and our families. LEVERAGE YOUR TIME.